by Sasha Lessin,Ph.D,

I call my eclectic relationship enhancement program All-Chakra Tantra.

Tantra means weaving, which we use in the sense of embracing a dimension, pole-to-pole. All-Chakra Tantra poses subselves concerned with seven fields, called chakras, of our totality. Within each of our bodies, the collective chakras constellate our skin-encapsulated universe.

Chakras are fields within and around each of us. Each of our chakras, or fields is defined by several dimensions. Each dimension is, in turn, defined by polar opposites or contrasts.

The seven fields/chakras are security, sensuality, power, love, expression, vision and spirituality. The tantric tradition identifies these as related to the area in and around our perineum, genitals, belly, heart, throat, neocortex and corpus callosum. Each chakra is identified with a single Sanskrit syllable in a learning chant called the Bija Mantra.

In All-Chakra Tantra, we weave the poles of the dimensions in each of these seven fields within us, so we can choose how salient that pole is–how much we let it open--in any given situations. Each person has a unique way of extending the dimensions within a given field.

We also weave the energy of the chakras within us with the chakras of our lovers, in all-chakra tantra relating. We activate our chakras and merge energy from them with our lovers’. When you and your lover synergize all your chakras–play your inner flutes together--together you join the symphony of all consciousnesses and experience the bliss of Unity Consciousness.

Your first chakra relates to your perineum, your needs to belong, feel safe, secure and healthy, grounded in your material and emotional existence. The tantric weaving of your base chakra and your lover's means you help your love feel secure emotionally and financially. You encourage wellness as you eat, exercise and stretch together. Massage and touch each other all over.

The second chakra relates to your sexuality and reproductive organs, your needs to feel sexual and sensual. In healing sessions involving this chakra, you release emotions and reprogram put-down attitudes. Women respond to vaginal strokes and ejaculate copious, alkaline fluid, amrita. Men learn how to pull up energy instead of ejaculating, to last longer in lovemaking and to orgasm in new ways.

For your third chakra, related to your belly, All-Chakra Tantra teaches you to take what's yours, assert yourself appropriately. Empower each other. You explore power chakra dynamics with your lover--how you bond (sometimes sweetly, sometimes sourly) into parental- child roles. Ram meditations help you return to sweet and centered interaction.

The meditations of the forth chakra, associate with your heart, guide you to love, cherish, support, heal and encourage yourself and your lover. You communicate feelings, cultivate sweetness, romance each other. You develop dyadic consciousness, where you identify at the same time with your beloved's consciousness and your own as parts of a greater awareness, a two-person awareness greater than the sum of your separate identities.

Fifth chakra throat: expression. Hear each of your inner voices (subselves) tell you what they want and need. They say how they aid you, your beloved and humanity. Choose what, when and how to express (or not express) your inner voices to other people. Honor your beloved's many voices too. Speak authentically, kindly and effectively to each other. In one throat-chakra exercise, you sanctify sex––––speak romantically of sacred sexual organs and acts.

Chakra 6, Brain: vision, intuition, intellect: Receive, share and expand visions for yourselves, each other, others you love, your community and world. As beloveds, you intuit each others thoughts and feelings, as well as those of your children, parents, friends and others. Access the messages of dream, past life, fantasy, archetype and hero-tale.

For the final charka, your crown, the tantric meditations we like invoke awareness of your unity with everyone and everything. Tantra helps you rise to broader perspectives of your crown chakra, yet stay aware of the wisdom of chakras 1-6.

Encompass more than Thinker, Pleaser or other subselves. Expand your awareness to more than your body. Expand your perspective to even more than awareness of you and your darling, more than the awareness you share with each other and with humans, with life itself, or even with the Earth. Feel your oneness with everyone and everything everywhere at all-times. Experience unity, the seamless web of consciousness linking the manifest universe. Merge with the latent--unformed but constantly arising–reality of the metacosmic void. Identify with divine play that can manifest all forms.

In tantra, you recognize, cherish, coordinate and integrate the chakras and consciously apply what they energize-–security, sex, power, love, talk, understanding and unity–-to enlighten yourself, your lover and the world.

Tantra activates all your chakras. The chakras are energy centers associated with your perineum, genitals, belly, heart, throat, forehead and crown. You pour energy from your chakras into a coherent river of light that spouts up your spine and meets your beloved’s light. You connect in the stream of consciousness that sweeps you both to the ocean of life.

In All-Chakra Tantra, you center yourself and orchestrate your chakras--inner power plants that generate security, sexuality, power, love, communication, vision, and feelings of oneness with everything and everyone. You learn a chant and a ritual that teaches you how to waken each chakra.


Create a private two-hours for a ritual with a partner or alone before a mirror. Then direct a client-couple through the ritual.

Perk Your Perineum

To activate your perineal chakra, sit and face your partner or your reflection. Touch your own palms together, thumbs on chest. Gaze into your partner’s or image’s eyes, bow and say, “Namaste. I honor the divine in you.” Chant lam three times.

If you’re a woman in a man-woman pair, enact the Great Mother. If you’re in a same sex pair, one of you stand to enact the Mother. Stand before the seated partner, your devotee. Your legs are trees; your feet, roots; arms and fingers, branches and twigs. Channel Ninharsag, co-creator and lover of humanity. As this Goddess, love and accept your devotee.

Kneel next to your devotee; sandwich her or his heart in your hands. Send energy out your right hand and catch this energy and the ashes of negativity burned from her or him in your left; send what you catch into the earth to recycle.

Devotees, feel the goddess pulse nurturing energy through you, cleansing you of rancor toward particular women and women in general. Instead, appreciate the women in your life and all women. Love, accept and fully forgive your mother. Feel each hurt, anger, disappointment, separation, resentment and negative attitude toward women drain from you; muscles that held those negativities relax.

Now, Goddess, hold your devotee’s head against your belly. Devotee, become your Inner Child. Let the goddess love and nurture you. She channels the loving intentions of your birth mother, of your female lovers, of all women, of Ninhursag, of the Earth. In her arms you feel safe, secure, healthy. You can cry, sigh, feel high.

Goddess, whisper three times to your devotee, “ You belong.” “I’m always here for you.” “You’re safe.” “You’re healthy.”

Devotee, if there’s any other reprogramming reminders--sentences that enhance your sense of belonging and physical well-being--you’d like her to say, tell her; she’ll say them.

Stand, Goddess; help the devotee stand before you. Devotee, open your eyes into your partner’s. Reverse goddess-devotee roles.

Portray Your Perineum

Identify with your security chakra; pretend you’re it. Say what you’re like as the voice of safety, security and health. Tell what you want, why you want that and what you’d do if you ruled your person all the time. Relate how you’d run her or his lovelife, if you were in charge. If you ruled the whole world, how would you manage the survival and well-being of humanity and the planet? Say how you help your person and what you want her or him to appreciate you for. Discuss how your Inner Child and Inner Protectors--the voices most concerned with physical well-being and feeling safe–affect you.

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Gratify Your Genitals

Chant vam three times. Wave your body; undulate your pelvis toward your partner or image. Then sit, eyes closed.

Recall and relive your sexual low-point, your sexual peak and what you learned from each. Open your eyes and tell your partner. Say how what you learned can help you in your current sexualloving. If you lack a partner, note your sexual nadir, peak and concomitant wisdom in the margin.

Let your sexual chakra speak with your mouth; as Sex Chakra, say what you’re like, what you need and what you’d do if you ran your person’s sex life. Say what you want her of him to value you for. Discuss how you, Sexual Chakra, choreograph the dance of your Inner Innana (your sexually adventurous voice) and inner Enlil (conservative voice). Relate how you’d dictate sex on Earth if you could.

Get Guts

Assist your assertiveness chakra (activated when you chant ram) to get what you need in love and sex. Ram power lets you claim your due and in relations and in life, lets you go for what you want, lets you set your boundaries. You apply ram when you stand up for yourself or stand up to people who invade you.

Stand Strong

Stand; face your partner or a mirror. Extend your right leg forward one pace, so your right knee’s above your right ankle and you can see your right toes but your knee blocks your right foot from sight. Straighten your left leg (knee slightly bent) behind you. Your left hip presses toward your right knee, so your hips face forward. Lean your right breast over your right thigh, so you slant forward and have a gentle backward curve in your lumbar. Place your palms on your belly and pull your shoulder blades toward each other, opening your chest. Feel solid, able to stand up to people and events and empowered to set and maintain boundaries.

Close your eyes as you stand in the Hero Pose. Picture opposite you a person you’d like to stand up to in your full power. Tell her or him what you want, why you want it and what you need. Open your eyes and, with your partner, discuss your experience.

Close your eyes for a few minutes and meditate on the power you need in relationships. Complete these sentences to each other: “Here’s how I want to be empowered with my lover ....” “What I want from you is ....” “What I want in my community, country and world is ...”

Demand Your Due

In the following exercise (adapted from H. Hendrix) you learn how to confront your lover when you’re upset with her or him.

"When you ..., (Say what upset you), I feel ... and react by ... to hide my fear of ... because what I need is ..."

Personify Power

Say what you’re like as the voice that asserts. Proclaim what you want and why. Relate how you’d run your person’s lovelife, if you were in charge. If you ruled the world, how would you empower people and the planet? Say how you help your person and how you want her or him to appreciate you.

Heed Your Heart

Chant yam three times and center yourself in your heart. Look into your partner’s or image’s eyes and assume a new Hero Pose with your left leg forward, arms stretched back and chest open.

Close your eyes. Pretend you stand before someone other than your partner. Beam love to that person and imagine you finish this sentence to her or him: “Here’s what I love about you....” Receive love from her or him. Broadcast love from your heart to your family, community and humanity.

Open you eyes, look into your partner’s, share a loving gaze. Think of what you love about her or him. Then sit together and say who you visualized loving when you had your eyes closed. Share what you felt when you sent love to the person you imaged, to your family and to the world. Tell each other, “What I love about you is ...”

Embody Affection

Become your love chakra and say what you want and why. How would your person live if you were the sole voice she or he heeded. How do you balance her or his Giver and Taker subselves. Relate what you’d do if you dictated love on Earth.

Vitalize Your Voice

Cradle your partner’s throat in your hands and chant ham three times to each other. Or chant it to the mirror. Take turns singing your favorite songs–songs that expresses who you are.

Finish this sentence with each other as many times as you can: "You don't know I ...."

Weigh the risk of your partner’s probable reaction in the following completions against the possibility of more intimacy; you may want a neutral witness to help you through any upset you fear the candor we suggest might trigger. Notice what you dread divulging; magnify this fear and finish: "I have secrets so bad that if you knew you'd ...." "It's hardest to tell you ...." "I risk our relation by revealing ...."

Tickle each other till you giggle; this, too, opens your throat chakra.

Enact Your Narrator

Personify your communicative chakra, the subself that shares or suppresses what you say. Relate your concerns about what your person reveals. What do you need to feel safe to express authentically? If you dictated the truth to the world, how would it change?

Broaden Your Brain

To explore your mind--the ooo chakra–, evoke your psychic abilities and archetypal understandings.

Sit and, facing partner or mirror-image, touch hands, rest foreheads together, eye-gaze and chant ooo three times. Imagine each ooo tunes your psychic center. Separate your heads but keep your gaze into each other’s eyes.

If partnered, one of you identify with your psychic self, the part of you that intuits directly; the other opens her or his mind to the psychic. If you’re do this alone, contemplate your image.

Look past your partner’s or image’s current face. See what your partner or the person in the mirror looked like as a newborn, as a child, as a young adult. See a pivotal childhood incident in her or his life. Imagine your partner or yourself in a pastlife; see a pivotal incident in that life. Guess, if your partner (or you) developed best in the next ten years, how she, he or you’d be. Share (or if alone, write) what you imagine.

If you’re partnered, reverse roles; it’s the partner’s turn to become your seer and imagine critical events in your childhood and pastlives, imagine you at your best in ten years and share these with you.

Represent your Reasoner

Identify with your intellect. When did you, Intellect, become a big force in your person’s life? How did you serve her or him then? How do you help now? What do you want and why do you want that? If you modulated her or him all the time, how would she or he live? How would you organize the world if you were in charge? How do you, Intellect, get along with the other half--the intuitive, psychic part--of the brain?

Open Your Crown and Merge with the Beloved, All People, All Beings, and the Divine

Transcend, yet retain as an aspect, your separate self-sense as you merge with lover, world, divinity. Close your eyes and channel, identify with, become the divine spirit of the universe. Enact the voice of your spirituality. As the spiritual subself, what do you desire for your person and the world?

Center and Coordinate the Chakras

See, one-by-one, the voices of each of your chakras board a bus to picnic at the beach. Notice which voices sit together. Overhear them chat about how they’d like to enjoy this outing. When they arrive, notice how they play. Note how each helps prepare the picnic.

At the beach, a difficulty arises between two or more of your voices, who want different things. Notice which chakras want what. Let their disagreement escalate. Let the voices of the other chakras contribute to the debate.

It’s time to return, but one of the chakra voices delays boarding. Notice which. The others get it to come onboard, though it still resists. The bus driver turns to the recalcitrant voice and addresses it. What does the driver say?

Become the driver, the one in charge, the one who decides where the bus goes and when. What do you say to the reluctant one and all the other chakra voices? On the way home, they all sing together. What do they sing?

Share All Chakras in Yab Yum

Sit facing your beloved. Drape your legs over your partner’s thighs; bring you feet together behind your partner’s tailbone. Snuggle your genitals together. Rest your left hands on each others’ lower backs; right hands behind each other shoulder blades. Together, you’ll chant and, as you do, waken each chakra. Imagine running energy from the front of your perineum, genitals, belly, throat, heart, brow and crown--chakras 1-7--into each other’s.

Breathe in and out when your partner does; synchronize your breath. Then syncopate your breath: inhale through your nose as your partner exhales through her or his mouth. Exhale through your mouth toward your beloved’s nose as she or he inhales through it. Pause together after each inhale and exhale. Take three syncopated breaths for each chakra (beginning with chakra 1).

Next, bless each chakra. Together, chant lam three times and focus on energy at the bottom of your spine. Align this energy with your partner’s. Send visions and feelings of safety, health and security as you say three loud lams. Tell each other, “I wish you health, safety and security”.

Rock your genitals against each other. Think of sexual and pleasant times together. Chant vam three times. Caress with eyes and genitals, wishing one another sensual ecstasy. Say, “I wish you sensual delight and sexual pleasure.”

Chant ram three times as you push your navels together. Feel your power and beam empowering images and encouraging thoughts out your bellies to each others’. Say, “Take what’s yours in life.”

Chant yam three times and share heart light, love and courage. Say, “I love you; I receive your love.”

Open your throats, chant ham three times in unison, wish each other honest talk and joyous song. Commit, with each ham, to hear and teach other. Say, “Tell your truth.”

Join foreheads and look into each others’ eyes until your partner’s eyes seem to converge into a single eye. Remember the pastlife you imagined for your partner and how you speculated she or he could flower if she or he flowered during the next decade. Then chant ooo three times and wish your partner clarity, intuition and creativity. Say, “ You know.”

Three times, chant mmm and imagine energy streams between your crown and your beloved's. Your minds meld into a synergistic mutual mind. Then transcend your personal pairing and merge with pastlife lovers, the lover archetype, the loving force in the Universe.

Three times, on a single exhale each time, chant lam, vam, ram, yam, ham, ooo, mmm together. Imagine your energies join in ever more refined auric bodies.

What I Covered:

To achieve tantric union, activate the seven energy centers in your body and join them to the chakras of your beloveds..

Chant lam, vam, ram, yam, ham, ooo, mmm and heighten your security, sexuality, power, love, expression, vision and spirituality.

Coordinate the voices of each chakra and charge your central channel.

Attain tantric union with your beloved when you press chakras, chant together, and feel your oneness.