Loads Of Goals But No Place To Go
by Asoka Selvarajah, Ph.D
All the personal growth literature tells us we should have
goals to work on, affirmations to repeat, and that we should be
constantly visualizing our future each day. All well and good.
If that's true, then why are most people in exactly the same
place after all this personal growth stuff as they were before
The reason comes down to an overall lack of life vision. In
other words, there is no master plan for life. What is the point
of setting goals, or working on affirmations, if you have no idea
where the thrust of your life is headed in the first place? In
other words, what are you here on this Earth to do? WHY are you
working towards these goals (if you have any)?
Most people do not have any answers to these basic questions. Ask
a small child, and you're quite likely to get an answer to the
question, "What do you want to be when you grow up?". However, if
you ask an adult a similar question, such as, "Where would you
like to be in 10 years time, and what would you like to be
doing?", you are likely to be greeted by silence...
So, how can we have given up on our dreams to this extent? Part
of the answer lies in childhood. Whether at school or at home,
the need to be "realistic" and "stop daydreaming" was
into each of us again and again. So effective was this mental
conditioning that most of can no longer figure out WHY we have no
idea what our dreams are! We have been so conditioned from the
outside, and have compromised so often on the inside, that there
is no dreaming power left. That which is nurtured grows. That
which is neglected withers and dies.
Instead, we find ourselves in a place we never planned to be in.
Most of us simply drifted there, without plan or design. Then,
from that position, we try to create goals and dreams that the
critical mind regards as "appropriate" or "possible".
because these goals are not true to our hearts, they do not
motivate us, or fill us with any passion to achieve them.
Goals, and all the rest of it, do no good if you have nowhere
specific you are heading to. You really need to get your head
above day-to-day concerns to determine what the whole point of
your goals is.
Michael Gerber, author of "The E-Myth" describes a similar
situation in the world of business. It seems that a lot of people
become business entrepreneurs, mainly from a desire to escape the
slavery of the 9 to 5 routine, and be free of the boss. The only
problem is that, whilst these people may be good "technicians",
this does not necessarily guarantee success in their own
business. Instead, many find themselves "trapped" in their dream,
to the point where they finally hate it, and realize that this
was not what they really wanted anyhow.
Look at it another way. Hollywood typically spends over $100
million on a blockbuster movie. With these figures at stake,
directors cannot afford to mentally drift. Films made these days
are storyboarded first; drawings (or even animations), are
created for every single shot in every single scene. Everything
is visualized with crystal clarity before filming even begins. By
contrast, imagine the sort of movies we would be watching if
directors went about their craft the way we do our lives!
Without a clear vision of where we are heading, we can be
terribly active achieving goals that take us nowhere specific.
Indeed, all this activity can serve as a good excuse for not
raising our heads high enough to see where we are actually
going. Or NOT going!
So, what can you do? The answer is, develop a vision, as clearly
as possible, for what your life is about, and where you are
heading. What is your "major definite purpose", as Napoleon Hill
termed it? What are you here to do?
If you do not know the answer to this question, this is the first
goal you should set; to find out. You must develop a mental image
of your desired future, and develop it so clearly that you can
see it, smell it, taste it and touch it. Then, keep that vision
before you often each day, and use it to fuel your goal creation.
Take time to ponder your dreams. Give yourself a regular period
of time each day to do this, especially if you have no clear
vision of them at present. This process may take time and cannot
be hurried, because you are reactivating faculties that have been
long dormant. Without this clear vision, any other goals and
affirmations you develop are virtually as good as useless. Yes,
they may take you forward a bit. But in which direction, and for
what purpose? Without an overall life vision, you really have no
You should ask yourself questions about all aspects of your life.
Where do you want to be financially, spiritually, in
relationships, healthwise, and so on? Gradually let the vision
develop as you relax and take time to elicit it from deep within
you. You may wish to write it down as it emerges.
Try not to judge or censor. That will only shut down the creative
process. Let it be okay to think of the ridiculous, because
nothing is as ridiculous as it may seem. People have taken up
mountaineering at the age of sixty five. There was a time when
Van Gogh had to learn to draw, and he was already an adult at the
Hence, be gentle with yourself, but retain the belief that much
is possible if you have faith. It may takes days, weeks or even
months. However, if you make developing a life vision your
primary goal, then all others will fall into place, and you will
find the infinite inner energy with which to accomplish them.
Copyright 2003. Asoka Selvarajah. All Rights Reserved.
Dr. Asoka Selvarajah is the author of "The 7 Golden Secrets To
Knowing Your Higher Self" course. Asoka's work helps people
achieve their full potential, deepen their understanding of
mystical truth, and find joy in their true soul's purpose. He
offers you a FREE 14-Day LifeBreakthrough e-mail course at:
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