A thought is never objectified until it is put into
words. Words are physical symbols representing
In the physical world the words we use represent our
power, or at least the power that we know we have at
the moment. Some words are more powerful than others.
For instance, "I know" are the second two
most powerful words that you can use. "I
think," "I hope," or "I believe
are very weak."
When I was 15 and had landed my first job, my boss
taught me to use the word "we" when I talked
to customers. I was knowledgeable enough at what I was
doing at that age, and had enough experience to
represent the company while selling products. His
reasoning for using the word "we" was to let
the customer know that there was more than
myself-there was someone behind me to back me up.
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"We" became a big part of my vocabulary, and
I used it almost exclusively when referring to myself.
There was some comfort in the word, but I didn't
realize until just a few years ago what kind of damage
it was doing to my self esteem.
When we say the word "we," we disempower
ourselves. In other words if I was talking to you and
I said, "we" can do this or that for you,
you may be thinking-maybe there is someone else I
should be talking to. By using the word we, I have
divided my power. If I chose the word "I"
then the power stops with me-there is no one else.
"I" can do this or that for you.
By using the word "we" I don't have to take
all the responsibility for what I say. My position is
much weaker because you can go over my head and talk
to the other part of we.
Old habits are hard to die, and I realized that this
word has not worked in my favour. It has taken almost
two years to wipe this word from everyday
conversations. By doing so, I have noticed that people
are not looking past my shoulder any longer. I have
regained the power of my words that I gave away over
50 years ago.
There are so many of these kinds of words that
disenfranchise us everyday in our relationships with
others. We are so accustomed to using them, they
become our friends. They are however, clear symbols to
others of how you are thinking. Words do not lie,
people do-and the words that you choose to use tell
volumes about how and what you are thinking.
Words are the second step in manifesting thought into
physical reality. The steps are-thought, word and
deed. First comes the thought, then the command
(word), and the thought is always made manifest at
some level of reality.
To change one's circumstances one only needs to change
the words that he/she uses. If you took some time off
to study and re-evaluated the words that you use
everyday, and replaced them all with new words-you
would notice that your world would also change
You would see your world through a different set of
glasses, and people would relate to you differently.
I listen to myself talking as much as I can, and often
I change my words after spoken or choose a different
one before speaking. The secret is to start speaking
slower, and think before you speak about what words
Start today and spend some time listening to your
words. Pick one that you notice may have a big impact
on whom you are talking to, and change it. I took me
two years to train myself not to use "we."
You may be a faster learner. Keep doing that until you
have achieved the desired results.
Language is so important and conveys so many meanings
spoken or implied. The poor chose of a word, can bring
you down or promote you to the top. Wars are fought
over a few poorly chosen words. And maidens acquiesce
to your charming words.
Another word that I use a lot is-never! I bet you can
find lots of them in your vocabulary that you may want
If it is a new life that you are seeking or a new way
to get along with others, consider using different
words. If you want to succeed in some endeavor choose
"I can." Tell yourself that often. Don't use
words like, "I want," "I think I
can," or maybe-they are weak and have little
power. Use the word "know." "Know"
is absolute-if you know something there are no other
possibilities. Even if you have to fool yourself for
awhile, eventually you will begin to believe your own
words. Then once you know them to be true, they will
become your new reality. If you choose to use the word
success as often as possible, you will succeed.
If you continue to use the word "unworthy"
for a period of time, you will believe it and you will
feel unworthy. I you choose to use the word
"love" often, you will not have any room for
the word "hate" and it will never cross your
"We" would never tell you this if it were
"I" would never tell you this if it were not
Which one is more powerful?
More than words-words are power! They are more
powerful than anything you will put your hands
Roy E. Klienwachter is a resident of British Columbia,
Canada. A published author, a student of NLP, ordained
minister, New Age Light Worker, Teacher and
Phenomenologist. Roy's books and articles are thought
provoking, and designed to empower your imagination,
and take you to places you would never have thought
Visit Roy at: http://www.klienwachter.com
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